Marriage means your whole life, a whole lifetime together,
not just a few days, or a few weeks, or a few years.
Marriage should be a life-long partnership
"The antecedents of families were fully examined in tho
past before marital alliances were concluded. But today these factors are
ignored. People are indifferent to family backgrounds, while they are concerned
about the pedigrees of dogs in dog shows! This indifference to lineage accounts
for the breakup of many marriages after a short time. This should not happen.
Marriage should be a life-long partnership." Sanathana Sarathi Jan 1996 P
14.
Marriage means your life, a whole lifetime together
"Before one is married, one does not know anything
about the attitudes of one's own wife. Prior to the marriage, whatever
difficulty the girl may come across, the husband is not going to worry about
it. But once the marriage is performed, even if the wife has a small pain or
difficulty, the husband also suffers great sorrow. The truth becomes clear from
this example that these sorrows and difficulties come half-way in our life, and
they are not natural to us."
"Marriage is like milk and sugar. Men are the milk;
ladies are the sugar. ... Milk by itself is just protein. Sugar alone is just
taste. They must be mixed together to give both taste and protein.
"In the Hindu culture, the wife is called half of the
husband ... Marriage is a sacred bond and it is a promise you are making to
each other because the wife is half husband and the husband is half of the
wife. Half plus half is not two but one.
"Selflessness is God. The self which is selfless is
God. To feel 'mine' and 'thine' is ego. Ego is very harmful. It is to kill the
ego that two souls are brought together. They can learn to adiust to one
another and forget their egos.
"Marriage means your life, a whole lifetime together,
not just a few days or a few weeks, or a few years ... Marriage is a training
ground for fostering transensual love.
"Life is like a ring. The ring is the heart; when that
is given, the gift is the heart itself. That is the sacred bond.
"Today there is the tendency of separation, not coming
together. Life is full of troubles and challenges. We should not separate
ourselves because of these but rather face them together. Now when trouble
comes, even if it is small, it separates us. That should not be the tendency,
one should give one's heart to another." Golden Age pp 140-143
First Understanding, then Adjustment
Marriage is the joining together or bringing together of a
man and a woman for the sake of progeny. People should exercise discipline and
control in married life. That is why it is said there can be no glory or
achievement without discipline. Before marriage, he is half body. Before
marriage, she is half body. Lady is always left side. Right side is gent's. The
gent's body is always the right side of the wife. Now you have only one body.
In Indian philosophy or custom this is called ardhangi. (Ardha means half).
Wife before marriage is only ardhangi, half body. Now the left side is joined
with the right side and you are full body.
"In the future, husband's troubles are wife's troubles
and wife's troubles become the husband's. It is like, if one part of the body
is paralyzed, the other part of the body feels the paralysis. And so, your wife
must feel your pains and you must feel her pains. Both of your pains are
removed by Swami. Both husband should help wife and wife should help husband.
"Sometimes, it is natural for you to have adjustment
and understanding. First you must understand each other. After that, adjustment
will be easy. First understanding. Second adjustment. Ninety percent of people
try adjustment first. This is wrong way around. First understanding."
Vision of Sai, pp 129-130.
TO BE CONTINUED……..WITH MORE MESSAGES AND DISCOURSES BY
SWAMI…………
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